We have a dangerous GAP in understanding and reality of bullies. With teen mental health crisis, “mass exodus”, narcissism epidemic and family court crisis to boot – I say it’s time for some serious reflection and reckoning. We must update our understanding of bullying: At schools In workplaces In friendships and romantic relationships In societal […]
Love Not War
Over the past 10 years I completed countless courses, trainings and certifications on relationships, trauma, attachment, sexuality, power, narcissism, abuse, etc. Why do I prefer to call myself a love and intimacy coach instead of a trauma coach or, for instance, divorce coach? While I work with people in various stages of life, from teenagers […]
Child Who?
My children’s dad’s way of connecting with them is sometimes calling after dinner and going on and on about how thin his girlfriend is and how she barely spends any money on herself, because she eats hardly anything and shops for her clothes at thrift stores. His excitement is palpable. It’s clear he can barely […]
At War in Family Court? You are not alone.
I have to get something off my chest. I see over and over moms getting completely bulldozed over in family court and labeled crazy and unhinged, because they go in in “warrior” mode, fighting to protect their kids and find justice. They have this idea that if only they can relate how badly they and […]
Healing trauma bonds
One of the things I’m the most proud in my work is helping clients heal from trauma bonds. It’s something I experienced for myself and it almost broke me when going through it. It gives me immense satisfaction to guide another human out of this hellish experience. What is a trauma bond? You might have […]
On codependency
You are not codependent. Your nervous system is in habitual fawn stress response. Maybe your parents or caregivers were scary, too busy or not skilled enough relationally to be attuned to you. We might operate in perpetual stress response or variations of it (if we are not fawning or people pleasing, we might be stuck […]