Over the past 10 years I completed countless courses, trainings and certifications on relationships, trauma, attachment, sexuality, power, narcissism, abuse, etc. Why do I prefer to call myself a love and intimacy coach instead of a trauma coach or, for instance, divorce coach? While I work with people in various stages of life, from teenagers […]
Child Who?
My children’s dad’s way of connecting with them is sometimes calling after dinner and going on and on about how thin his girlfriend is and how she barely spends any money on herself, because she eats hardly anything and shops for her clothes at thrift stores. His excitement is palpable. It’s clear he can barely […]
Healing trauma bonds
One of the things I’m the most proud in my work is helping clients heal from trauma bonds. It’s something I experienced for myself and it almost broke me when going through it. It gives me immense satisfaction to guide another human out of this hellish experience. What is a trauma bond? You might have […]
On codependency
You are not codependent. Your nervous system is in habitual fawn stress response. Maybe your parents or caregivers were scary, too busy or not skilled enough relationally to be attuned to you. We might operate in perpetual stress response or variations of it (if we are not fawning or people pleasing, we might be stuck […]
Recovering from narcissistic abuse.
On a personal note, recovering from narcissistic abuse is one of the most difficult journeys I’ve ever been on in my life. Complexity is compounded by the fact that I can not easily escape the narcissistic person in my life, or completely safe-guard my children from them for that matter, thus me re-experiencing the abuse […]
How do we let go in the face of uncertainty?
As we are going through these uniquely uncertain times, most of us are struggling in some way. However, for some of us, anxiety and thoughts spinning out of control in absence of clear and definite answers and certain future is especially challenging. As our minds grasp to create some certainty and without being able to […]