You are not codependent. Your nervous system is in habitual fawn stress response. Maybe your parents or caregivers were scary, too busy or not skilled enough relationally to be attuned to you. We might operate in perpetual stress response or variations of it (if we are not fawning or people pleasing, we might be stuck […]
Grey and yellow rocking mastery
One of the most useful tools to employ with narcissistic behaviors is grey rocking (yellow rocking recommended if you have children together, which basically means using a more friendly sounding tone in your emails, for the sake of appearing as a cooperative parent in the eyes of a family court and being strategic regarding custody […]
Recovering from narcissistic abuse.
On a personal note, recovering from narcissistic abuse is one of the most difficult journeys I’ve ever been on in my life. Complexity is compounded by the fact that I can not easily escape the narcissistic person in my life, or completely safe-guard my children from them for that matter, thus me re-experiencing the abuse […]
How do we let go in the face of uncertainty?
As we are going through these uniquely uncertain times, most of us are struggling in some way. However, for some of us, anxiety and thoughts spinning out of control in absence of clear and definite answers and certain future is especially challenging. As our minds grasp to create some certainty and without being able to […]
My body obliges
When I feed her pleasure, she perks up, bursts with joy and is ready to party with the stars! When I take her to the gym and lift weights, her muscles strengthen, grow and tone. When I take her to a yoga class, she relaxes and becomes more flexible. When life throws a curveball, I […]
Future is not female, it is relational
The war of sexes needs to end or we are all going down. It’s not just an idealistic adage. It’s plain and simple reality. It’s also science. As a certified relationships, sexuality and life coach, I’m here to tell you that there’s plenty of research proving beyond shadow of the doubt that intimacy is good […]